Expectations

A dialogue so relatable ” Intentionally you don’t want to hurt people you love but one or the other way you always hurt people you love. You can’t hurt people you don’t love.”All just because in your imagination is just so perfect that you start expecting things and when those expectations are not met you get hurt. In short, you always expect from those whom you love and get hurt also from those only .you sometimes try not to expect things so that you don’t get hurt but in your subconscious mind there are expectations. They can be less but there are some why because at some point in time they let us hope those and even met those. But now you don’t know what it is but you do get hurt even if it is a bit.

Another thing I have always seen is you always run behind something that is running away from you or the one that is difficult to get. No matter the thing you have how special it is you don’t value them because that’s not what you want. So it’s a cycle, all are running. We can never be satisfied, some expectations are always there because of which you get hurt. But are those things behind which we are running really worth for us. If yes then why does it take so much time and if not then why those things are there in your life. Everything will be perfect but yet you won’t be happy. Why? Because of the perfection, you created in your mind. Everyone says control your mind and you will be sorted. But then that’s the most difficult things. The only thing we can do is get used to it with time until it stops affecting you and you are met with yet another thing to strive.

Happiness

Ever wondered what is happiness?

Happiness is that can be felt

Happiness was  when you came into your parent’s life

It was when you started crawling

It was when you uttered your first word

It was when you held their finger tight

It was when you first started walking

It was when you first started going to school

It was when you graduated

It is when they become your friend

It is when you make  them proud

It is when they are by your side

It will be when you will be independent

It will be when you take care of them

It will be when you will be by their side

It will be when you again hold their finger tight

It will be when you will share things with them

It will be when you take their advice

It will be when you will always hold their hand

It will be when they will be proud to call you their son/daughter

 

 

Little things

Sometimes just little things make you happy. Isn’t it? It’s just that sometimes by just stop expecting and doing things you want to do makes you happy. You feel like being at peace after a long time. Life doesn’t have to be perfect always, it’s not always what you want it to be like but what makes difference is when you start finding happiness in those little things which you ignore in those sad days makes life a bit easy and a bit cheerful. Nothing is perpetual in this world if it would have been boring just like a 9 to 5 job. But you know what even that 9 to 5 job can be looming if you just change the perspective with which you see it and find new things to add to make it a bit interesting. No one needs to be perfect, nor anyone is , it’s just us who makes it boring or interesting. It’s our mind which makes the same thing look beautiful if you just teach your mind to let it be and make it happen what you want. This might sound a bit philosophical but it is true . Aren’t the days same, the routine same but still there are some days when we feel happy and sometimes sad and the only difference between those days will be the way you started that day? or how your mood was at the waking time? or what was the thought that came to your mind when you first woke up ?or how well you slept? or at how much peace you were at before sleeping the previous night? It’s nothing just our mind that creates the illusion of that this was wrong or that was right. Everything that happens is right, maybe now it seems wrong to you but there is some sort of positivity there in that thing which is necessary for us. Just try a little harder when you are upset. Just try to make you mind normal when it is sad. Just try to wake up with a happy mind and some positive thoughts. Just have patience and make things happen that you want in bits. Just don’t run,  be where ever you are and enjoy the moment because you never know what’s going to happen next.It’s just these little things that will make difference in our life because no one is perfect, it’s us who have to make it the way we want to, it might take time but it will happen one day.

A letter to 13 year old of me

Hi, little soul. I know must be sleeping right now with loads of beautiful but futile dreams. Yes, you heard it right “futile”. Quite a heavy word for you right! But trust me won’t be heavier than the life ahead. Till now you must be wondering who am I and why I am saying this to you. I am your good wisher or I would say you only. Confused? but don’t be just listen.

So, you must be in the 8th standard. A class where you are going to make very important relationships of your life but honey slow down, don’t be in so much hurry, observe carefully who are worth for you and who not. The way you are moving I won’t say you are going wrong but you need to be careful because in these so-called “lovely pink dream world of yours”, you are going to lose a precious part of your soul. Your freshness, your trust and most importantly your ability to experience the bliss of those beautiful relationships. Rather than jumping on to conclusions too early I would advise you to make a lot of good friends, make a lot of memories and just enjoy the moments and save yourself for the best things. Love your family right now, they are the only ones who whom you should think about loving because the love you are in search of is yet to come but this is too early for that. Right now you don’t understand the meaning of love. So my little bunch of joy this is the age you need to listen more rather than reacting. Observe everything around you, learn from people around you. Life is too long and this is the time to enjoy and build your personality not to invest yourself in too early relationships.

This was what you need to know about personal life. Now, coming to your educational life. Here also I will advice you the same. Observe and learn. Have you ever thought of what you want to be in life. I know, I know you will say you want to become a doctor but have you ever thought of  how you would reach there? What it will cost you? When ? Where?  Have you done your homework for that? Easy easy sweetie. Don’t panic . I am just saying you to start preparing yourself for everything from now only. Start knowing yourself, your weakness, your strengths. Discuss it with your parents you have just got the best family anyone could ever have. The most important advice that I want you to give is start reading. Read anything, a storybook, a magazine anything you like but do start reading. Get yourself out of your comfort zone and start exploring everything from games to singing and dancing to painting just everything so that you get to know what you are good at. This is the time you need to try to overcome your shyness. I know you are an introvert person but this is the right time to overcome your fears. There is a lot of time to improve. I know these things right now are too much philosophical for you right now but trust me these aren’t as hard as they seem to you.

Trust me if you start doing these things from now even in small bits you will see a lot of things improved and life wouldn’t be as hard as it will be if you don’t do these things. You are a hardworking and a very sincere girl I know that but these little things will make you more close to your dreams whichever you want next. Don’t be so harsh on yourself. I know you are a teenage right now and these hormonal changes are just too much to handle but they aren’t that tough, life is way tougher but it wouldn’t be if you are prepared before the storm comes. Just enjoy, be carefree, be blunter, be a leader and more than anything else be a reader because this is something which will not only help you in your studies but in your personality also. All the best . LOVE.

 

THE DAY CAME, PATHS CHANGED

Days passed, months slipped

They were strangers, moments were friendly

Aura was perfect, they were unaware

The day came, paths changed

Things changed, they moved on

Paths crossed, they met

They were friends, moments were blessed

Aura was bliss, they were aware

The day came, paths changed

Things changed, they moved on

Days passed, months slipped

They tried, they poised

They beamed, they consoled

The converse was pristine, they were perfect

The day came, paths changed

The feels were there to remind

But things changed, they moved on

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The chase

Everyone is running

Everything is running

From the person right next to you

To the watch that is  infront of you

 

A mother is running behind her family

A father is running to support his family

And that is the  permanent chase

The chase of love

The chase of responsibility

 

Students run behind their dreams

Lovers run behind their love

And then this chase is over

Just to start another chase

And this is the chase

The chase of continuity

 

The alchemist runs to transform

The hymnodist runs to find hymn

And this is the chase

That chase is the chase of peace

The chase of something divine

 

The whole world is a chase

The whole life is a chase

The chase of  chase

 

 

Ronita

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

#Mensturation: Still a taboo

I still remember, when I was in the 6th standard that was the first time when I got to know about “menstruation”. A seminar was conducted only for girls where all the girls of class 6th,  7th and 8th were called and the marketing team of famous sanitary pads company showed us a presentation about what it is? , what are the symptoms? how to handle? what are the taboos? and etc. etc. But what the strange thing about that seminar used to be was that after exposing us to such an important part of our life we were said not to share it with the boys in our class.

I think this is where the problem begins. When a place which is our alma mater is teaching us that we shouldn’t talk about it openly then how could we expect a change? Second place which plays the most important part of our life is our home. There also the situation was no different. In the start when I got my periods for the first or second time, when I was learning to handle myself in those days, I skipped my school once and when my brother asked mom why am I skipping school? she told him that I was having a fever. These are just two experiences that I am narrating there are many ,  I think there will be at least 1 with every girl.

“The visitors”, ” I am down’, “Chumming” these are just one of the few words that are used in our society to refer that we are on periods. There is a lot of euphemism about menstruations all over the world. Nowadays, we are talking about switching to biodegradable sanitary pads because it takes 500-600 years to completely dispose of a sanitary pad  which is a really important issue to be resolved but for that women should start using pads firstly. Studies shows that 88% of Indian women still don’t use sanitary pads beacuse they aren’t affordable but i think major problem is that they are not aware of it.They use rags, ash, hay, newspaper, old clothes, newspaper in those days which not only create hygiene problems but also leading to some serious diseases like cervical cancer. Menstruation is still ostracized. Women are treated differently during those days. They are considered impure, they are asked to sleep on floor, not to enter kicthen, not to touch pickels, not to have cold things, not to go near fire etc. etc. These are just some myths that are still practiced in our society . People consider it as some disease and even many girls and women are convinced enough that they are dying of cancer when they start bleeding.

These was all about being at personal level. Now coming to commercial level. We see advertisements of sanitary pads when the blood is shown blue in color. We need to tell the society that the “Blue is Red”. In recent days while watching “Big Boss” I came accross an incident where Hina Khan was telling Vikas Gupta not to talk about “the girls problem” . Why was she stating it as girls problem ? She could have used the word menstruation itself. But no, this is how our society address it. We are not allowed to talk about it openly. We are not allowed to show what we go through in those days instead we are treated like we have committed some crime. We need to change this . We need to talk about it openly because this is part of every women life.

Yet the  time is changing . Last few years have been revolutionary. Now we celebrate Menstrual Hygiene Day. In urban areas people are being more vocal  about it. But to spread awareness we need to be vocal on our personal levels. There should be more campaigns about it to  provide the right information .We should start talking about it in our schools, homes, workplaces. It would be nice if talk more clearly and scientifically about our bodies because it’s not only about how openly we talk about it but to increase women health.